By understanding our desires and analysing our actions, we can find ways to heal ourselves
Nobody can hurt me without my permission, said Mahatma Gandhi, however, the truth is that most of us hurt each other in our relationships and we do it because we just want to do it. There is no larger reason for it, but it’s something that just happens. According to psychologists, most people hurt someone because they want something they think they can’t have, or have something they don’t want. If we closely observe ourselves, then we would find that most of us are in one of the above two conditions, and we don’t know what to do about it, hence we think that the only method of getting what we want is to hurt someone. So, is this the only way out? Is it the right method to follow? We all know it’s wrong because it creates a lot of pain on both sides, so why do we do it?
Simply because we don’t understand how to have that thing that we badly want or get rid of that thing that we do not need without hurting.There may be numerous reasons for us to hurt people, however the most common of them is ‘unfulfilled expectations’ which we all experience in our various relationships. Take for example, we just met someone and have fallen in love with him/her. Now before there is any kind of exchange of feelings, we just start dreaming about things that are totally out of context.